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Client- Anonymous

My name is Anonymous.

I am 45 years old, and I have recently been divorced after being married for 15 years.

My spouse and I owned a business to assist those who were looking to remodel their home. My partner was the person who would assist them in finding the style of decor that they would like in their home, and I was their personal buyer and decorator. For years we connected on a business level and privately on a personal level because we had goals that were similar.

In the 11th year of our marriage after having two beautiful children We started to discover that our parenting styles and goals for our children were different. He was determined to make them excel at athleticism. I was much more invested in their curriculum and taking in all the knowledge available. This is where the speed bump in our relationship began. I started to notice him undermining my advice to our children to devote themselves to their education. He would advise them to get mediocre grades and excel at sports and extracurriculars. In normal circumstances, both pillars standing strong for health and fitness and education were important. I did not enjoy having to constantly reiterate to my children how important education was. Eventually, we became combative about our child-rearing styles, and it led to us dissolving marriage and continuing the co-parent successfully. We both agreed that we were different people when it came to her children but that in business, we still had the same goals. In the last two years, I have found myself lost in my family and business life. I felt like my identity was tied to my children and my ex-partner. I have not found a way to set myself apart as a single entity from business and the family. Every day I spend longer than I should have changing my clothes and only feeling confident that I was putting forward the person that I am seen as and not the person that I am. I reached out to Fallyn to go on a journey of self-discovery and hopefully find a style that was my own. I wanted to look in the mirror and recognize myself I knew this was important if I was to ever find another partner or at least be happy being a single woman. Fallyn’s first question was “Do you feel like you were showing up in your life as the most authentic self?” I was immediately confused because I honestly did not know who I was.

Fallyn said, “it is perfectly fine if you do not know who you are outside of these different rooms in your mind.” She explained to me that “Most people come to her without an understanding of whom they are but knowing they don't feel like themselves.” In the first 30 minutes of meeting Fallyn, I immediately felt seen and heard. It is so strange how important validation is in life. I was also very afraid because I did not know myself, she would not be able to assist me. Fallyn advised, “This is where we start, at the root.”

We Met every week on a Thursday afternoon between the children's sports practices at my convenience, which was excellent considering I always had something going on. Fallyn would take me to a new store and ask me to pick out 2-3 things I saw immediately that I would like to try on. She said, “Do not think of anything but what you like about the item.” This was difficult because my mind wondered, “How will this look at work?” or “What would my children think of this?”

Then I would try on these 2-3 pieces while fallyn was waiting in the wings. When I would come out, she would say “Do you recognize the person you are in this item?” Sometimes, I would say “I’m not sure.”  She would say “If it does not look like something you would wear put it back.” I would eventually buy at least one item after the process of elimination. Together we would set a goal that I would wear this item 2 times in the following week and if it did not make me feel recognized by myself, we would either return it or donate it. After 2 weeks I had a small wardrobe with colors that complimented my skin tone and more importantly my personality. I looked forward to getting dressed every day. I did not spend hours shaking my confidence and anxiety level raising. I just put the items on. My ex-partner said they “were wondering when I would show up.” Fallyn challenged me to wear one of these items to a remodel expo. I received compliments on my clothing expressing how colorful, vibrant, and unique I looked. With these compliments I found myself feeling seen and comfortable communicating with my excellence in decorating. It has been a month since I last went shopping with Fallyn’s help. We communicate monthly to make sure my needs have not changed. Fallyn empowered me to listen to myself and show up unapologetically in my life. The next service I plan to start would be SINGLE PEACE. It is affordable and will help me prepare for finding a partner that appreciates my authentic self and supports my constant self-discovery. She specializes in this area, which is so unique. Do not be afraid to ask for help. Sometimes it takes stepping out of comfort and an unbiased opinion to steer you down your path.

Service Packages used:

Understanding 400.00 for 6 wks.

Wardrobe Assistance 125.00 for 1 month

Single Peace 100.00 every week at my convenience

Prices are negotiable but no less than these minimums.

All services are subject to use and do have an expiration date which can be extended per the circumstances.